Are you living with an addict? Here are useful tips that can help from White Sands Tampa
Are you living with an addict? Are you at your wit’s end trying to find a way to help your loved one quit his addiction? These are reasonable questions that many Americans can answer in the positive. Currently, there are millions of Americans who are struggling with drug or alcohol addiction, and they and their family are being heavily impacted by their addiction. In the homes where addiction resides, children are being exposed to dysfunctional mindsets and behaviors of addict parents or siblings that may be affecting them in a negative way. And many addicts are in denial about having an addiction problem and refuse to get help. Knowing how to help an addict who doesn’t want help is what we will explore today:
- Substance abuse and addiction impacts the entire family and can leave heartbreak and destruction in its path. Living with an addict can be an extremely challenging situation, and each family member may treat the problem differently. Some members of the family will be tough on the addict while others will feel sorry for him and enable him to continue his addiction. Families who are living with an addict should go for counseling to learn how to deal with an addict. There are effective behaviors that family members can learn that will not assist the addict in continuing his habit. Enabling behaviors must be broken, but they have to be identified first and that is why family counseling, with or without the addict, will be helpful.
- Addicts are very adept at hiding their addiction and will try to cover up their actions with all kinds of excuses. They will attempt to manipulate you and other family members to get their way, or to repudiate any accusations made against them. They are quite talented at making up stories about why they have run out of money and need a loan from you. The important thing to remember when living with an addict is that they consistently lie. Do not believe most of what they say, especially if they are trying to get you to do something for them.
- Learning how to deal with an addict is not easy. You may have many feelings concerning your loved one, such as fear, worry, guilt etc. that overwhelm you at times and make you behave in ways that are counter-productive to helping the addict. You are thinking about our heart and not your head. You can think of your heart and your head, but the reality is that certain behavior will not ultimately help your loved one. Life and the decisions that go with it will be difficult at times, but in the end, this is how to help an addict who doesn’t want help.
- Don’t play the name, shame, blame game. Don’t accuse the addict of ruining your life, or anything else, because of his addiction. This will just make a bad situation worse. Learn to keep a healthy distance from the problems, and maintain the proper boundaries that you need to stay in control of your emotions.
- Make a life for yourself and do the things that bring you pleasure and joy. Take care of your health and socialize with others. Try to live a normal life without the addict’s intrusions. Don’t make their addiction your addiction, and their issues and drama, your issues and drama. This is how to deal with an addict who wants to consume and control you. Maintain your own space and learn to live life as best as you can.
- You may want to try having an intervention with an intervention specialist to try and convince your loved one to get help. It may take more than one attempt to be successful, but it is definitely worth the effort. Let your loved one know that there will be boundaries and consequences until he recognizes that he has a problem and agrees to get help.
The most important thing to remember when living with an addict is that you have to stay in control of yourself and not let your emotions rule. Let your loved one know that although he has decided on this destructive path for his life, you will be no part of it and will never accept or support it. You love him and will do what you can to help him get well, but that is all you are willing to do for him. This is how to deal with an addict, by laying down the rules of engagement and sticking to them.
If you or a loved one needs help with abuse and/or treatment, please call the WhiteSands Treatment at (877) 855-3470. Our addiction specialists can assess your recovery needs and help you get the addiction treatment that provides the best chance for your long-term recovery.