Leaving a Relationship With a Substance Abuser
Knowing When to Walk Away
Relationships can sometimes be difficult and hard to manage even without one of the partners abusing substances. When you throw in an alcohol or drug issue, though, the effects on the relationship are exacerbated. Knowing when to walk away from a partner before their substance abuse or addiction issue worsens is imperative for the wellbeing of both individuals. If you do not walk away from an unhealthy situation, you are putting yourself in danger with each passing day.
One of the worse things that an individual can do for themselves and for the other person is staying with them if they are abusing drugs or alcohol. Sticking around means that you are condoning their behavior and accepting and allowing it. By walking away from a negative relationship with a drug addict or alcoholic is the only way to translate the message that you no longer are accepting their abuse.
Effects of Alcohol Abuse on a Relationship
Despite common belief, alcohol use disorder (AUD) is more common than one may think. When an individual is struggling with an alcohol abuse problem, it affects every aspect of their life including their relationship. Unfortunately, alcohol abuse disorders impact far more men than women and, in turn, women are often the ones who leave their significant others due to their substance abuse issue.
When a partner abuses alcohol, the significant other may feel as though they can no longer rely on the individual in certain ways. This could mean they no longer financially help out due to their inability to keep their job as a result of their drinking. The financial burden that the individual feels can take a huge toll on a relationship and, in turn, resentment begins to build up. Once resentment builds up, it begins to slowly destroy the relationship. This is when individuals begin to question why they would stay and put up with their lifestyle.
The ‘Roller Coaster’ Effect
When an individual is dating or married to an alcoholic or drug addict, there are various highs and lows, similar to a roller coaster. There are rarely calm moments in these types of relationships which can make it difficult for an individual to confront their significant other about their addiction or substance abuse. Getting help for these individuals is important since they more than likely will not be able to help themselves. Knowing where to turn when things get tough will help both the addict as well as the significant other.
When an individual who struggles with an alcohol problem is not drinking, they may seem moody and irritable which can make them very unapproachable. Knowing how to handle these moments can allow the individual to understand the perspective that you are coming from. Suggesting that therapy and counseling are required in order for the relationship to survive can help spark a reaction in the individual that will encourage them to get help.
It is not easy being in a relationship with an individual who is struggling with a drug or alcohol addiction. Getting the necessary help will better the relationship while also allowing the individual to get the help they need to get better.
If you or a loved one needs help with abuse and/or treatment, please call the WhiteSands Treatment at (877) 855-3470. Our addiction specialists can assess your recovery needs and help you get the addiction treatment that provides the best chance for your long-term recovery.