Dealing With an Alcoholic Partner

When Substance Abuse is Ruining Your Relationship

Having a drink or two with your partner is nothing out of the ordinary and usually, it doesn’t pose any harm. It is when a partner takes casual drinking to the next level that it raises a red flag. When an individual binge drinks or drinks more than they should be on a regular basis, it may mean that there is an underlying issue. 

Knowing whether your partner has crossed the barrier into alcohol abuse can be difficult to determine, especially if you love them and make excuses for their excessive drinking. While it’s hard to bring to the forefront, alcohol abuse in a partner can be extremely stressful on the relationship. Understanding and recognizing the warning signs of alcohol abuse can help get your partner into treatment. 

Recognizing the Warning Signs

If you think that your loved one may have an alcohol abuse problem, there are different warning signs to look out for. There are several main symptoms of alcohol abuse:

  1. The desire to drink
  2. Inability to stop drinking
  3. Having a high alcohol tolerance
  4. Not telling the truth about drinking 
  5. Being secretive about drinking 
  6. Blacks out when drinking 

If these symptoms sound familiar, it’s important that you get your partner into treatment as soon as possible. The sooner you are able to speak to your loved one about getting help, the quicker they will be able to live a sober life that is not controlled by their addiction. Not only is the addiction controlling the life of the individual who is struggling, but it is also taking a devastating and detrimental toll on their partner. 

Not only are there behavioral signs of addiction, but there are also physical signs that your loved one is struggling with an addiction. Some of the physical signs that your loved one is struggling with alcoholism are:

  • Shakiness
  • Sleeping problems
  • Changes in appetite
  • Weight loss/weight gain
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Getting bruises on the body
  • Whites of eyes becoming yellow

If these physical signs of addiction are present, it’s important that measures are taken immediately. The longer the individual waits to get help, the worse their condition will become.

Sticking to Limitations and Boundaries

When it comes to being serious about getting your loved one help, it’s vital that you do not ‘crack’ under the pressure. You cannot give in to their addiction because each time that you do that, you are reiterating that their behavior is acceptable. Through being firm on your beliefs of sobriety and treatment, you are translating the message that you are not willing to put up with this behavior any longer and that the individual needs to get help now.

There are many treatment options available that can help individuals get their life back on track. While obtaining sobriety is not an easy journey, it is a fathomable one that requires commitment and dedication. With the right treatment and therapy, individuals can make a full recovery from addiction and begin to lead productive, happy, and healthy lives once again. 


If you or a loved one needs help with abuse and/or treatment, please call the WhiteSands Treatment at (877) 855-3470. Our addiction specialists can assess your recovery needs and help you get the addiction treatment that provides the best chance for your long-term recovery.

About the Author

is a proud alumni member of WhiteSands Treatment. After living a life of chaos, destruction and constant let downs, Mark was able to make a complete turnaround that sparked a new way of life. He is serious about his recovery along with helping others. At WhiteSands Treatment, we offer support to you in your homes or when you are out living in your daily lives.