When to Lose Harmful Friends In Recovery

Making Good Friends In Recovery

Recovery means making changes in many areas of your life. Friendships in recovery cannot include the old buddies you drank or did drugs with. Wanting to restore your physical and mental health means removing the elements that are injurious including drugs, alcohol, and harmful acquaintances.

Letting Go Of Harmful Friends

It’s hard to be different. When all your friends are “partying,” you want to be part of the action. If that means using drugs and drinking alcohol, you will probably feel the need to conform and join in the harmful activities. Once you realize your mistake and seek help, it’s essential to let go of those friends in recovery to protect yourself from relapsing. You worked hard physically and emotionally going through detox and rehab. Your determination to remain sober requires making some serious life changes, and that means saying goodbye to anyone who is not supportive of your sobriety. Remove the following types of people from your life:

  1. You don’t want friends who try to convince you that life was more fun when you had a few drinks, did some drugs and partied all night. This type of person feels unhappy about his or her own lifestyle and just wants someone to be miserable with. Avoid this former friend.
  2. Stay away from the old haunts where you know alcohol and drugs are present. Locations can be as much of a trigger as some people.
  3. Stay away from people who cannot provide healthy support for you in your recovery.
  4. Ignore former friends who are still using drugs or drinking because he or she is constantly thinking about where the next drink is coming from or where they can get more drugs. You and your recovery is the farthest thing from his or her mind.
  5. Don’t accept party invitations from friends who will be allowing alcohol or drugs at their event. Peer pressure can be a powerful trigger, and you need to avoid it.

Friendships In Recovery

When you make friendships in recovery, think of yourself first. Choose sober friends who find their “high” in living life to the fullest. Join a gym, a hiking club, or biking group if you like being outdoors. Volunteer with a homeless shelter, library, museum, hospital, or civic group to keep your mind on helping others instead of dwelling on old habits. Gather together a supportive group of friends who offer encouragement and positive lifestyle options. Building strong and encouraging friendships in recovery is one of your most important personal growth responsibilities.

Finding Sober Friends

Finding sober friends is not difficult as long as you look for them in the right places. Going to your “friendly” neighborhood bar is not where you want to look. Meet new friends in activity groups that encourage and promote a healthy lifestyle. Try some outdoor activities such as walking, running, biking, tennis, hiking, boating, or rock climbing. These activities strengthen the mind and body, and your overall health will benefit. People who participate in these types of endeavors are primarily those who honor their bodies and refrain from using alcohol and drugs. You can also make sober friends doing volunteer work, attending church, and at Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meetings. Online support groups are available for instant encouragement if you are at work or alone late at night.

It’s time to ditch your toxic friends who will spend their time trying to drag you back into the vicious cycle of drug and alcohol abuse. Call WhiteSands Treatment Center at (877) 855-3470 and speak with a trained counselor. By answering some questions specific to your circumstances, you can give the counselor the information needed to get you set up for an assessment and admission into one of WhiteSands exceptional drug treatment programs.

Sources:

https://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/02/09/staying-sober-after-treatment-ends/

https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2017-04-24/why-do-alcoholics-and-addicts-relapse-so-often

https://www.verywellmind.com/tips-for-staying-clean-and-sober-67900

If you or a loved one needs help with abuse and/or treatment, please call the WhiteSands Treatment at (877) 855-3470. Our addiction specialists can assess your recovery needs and help you get the addiction treatment that provides the best chance for your long-term recovery.

About the Author

is a proud alumni member of WhiteSands Treatment. After living a life of chaos, destruction and constant let downs, Mark was able to make a complete turnaround that sparked a new way of life. He is serious about his recovery along with helping others. At WhiteSands Treatment, we offer support to you in your homes or when you are out living in your daily lives.